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Why a Mom Needs Some “Me” Time

Why does a mom need some “me” time?

If someone will say that being a full time mom is “not a job”, I will punch that someone in the face! Ok, I won’t do that because I’m not really a violent person, but I will probably just give that person a mean death stare. My point is, it’s not a really nice thing to say to a mom, not to mention a tired mom.

“But she stays at home all day, why is she tired?”

tired lady

Seriously, don’t say this to a stay-at-home mom. Being a mom is a job! It requires a set of special skills. Raising kids while managing the house and keeping everything in order is no easy feat. I mean, it’s not easy keeping everyone alive!

I have two daughters, with ages under 10, who don’t seem to understand the words “quiet” and “sit still”. They are constantly running and jumping and screaming! They like to shout “MAMAAAAAAAAAA!” at the same time. It really makes me bonkers. Ah, they are just darlings!

They also rarely keep their clothes clean, which means doing the laundry is not a walk in the park. Luckily, there are some useful hacks to remove different stains from clothes.

I only have two kids and I am already exhausted. I can only imagine how those who have three or more kids feel. I don’t know how you manage it, but kudos to you!

Spending the day tending your family, being alert and vigilant at all times, multitasking, less sleep— these are just some of the reasons why moms are always tired.

It can be stressful sometimes.

Well, most times…when the baby won’t stop crying after you’ve tried everything, or when they refuse to eat after you have labored for hours in the kitchen. Or when they peed on the sheets that you have just changed. Or when you specifically told your kids not to run because the floor is wet and they might slip but they run anyways and then they slip, and you’re all,  “I told you so! Why don’t you ever listen to me?” You get the point.

Hey, a mom is a human, too…

If  moms didn’t get some time off, I fear for their sanity. Even the Lord rested on the seventh day.

Having some “me” time, even for just a few hours, will help calm your nerves and replenish your energy. It will make you feel good! If you feel good, everyone around you will feel good. Same thing if you’re stressed, everybody will feel stressed, too.

happy lady

I like taking time offs because it refreshes me and it makes me feel like I’m ready to tackle anything. It also helps keep me sane. I think it is important to love and take care of yourself first so you can take care of your family better.

24 thoughts on “Why a Mom Needs Some “Me” Time

  1. YES, me time is a must! If I don’t have a little time unwind and balance myself than I have a terrible attitude and no patience which makes parenting not-so-fun for anyone. I wish I had made me time more of a priority with my first child as I think I would have adapted much easier to motherhood and felt less overwhelmed.

    1. That’s true. I am very hands on when it comes to taking care of my kids, sometimes it’s overwhelming. Me time is very important.

    1. Self care is so important! Sometimes, I feel like the day would never end ’cause it’s taking my kids forever to fall asleep. They are really testing my patience. Just take a deep breath and take a few minutes break.

  2. I will admit, “me time” is a big part of why I’m not a SAHM. I like my job. Fortunately, I get holidays and summers off to spend with my babies. Finding time to just be yourself can be so important, even if it is for just a few minutes a day.

    1. Yes, a few minutes can have a big effect. I do 5-minute yoga, or just have a cup of tea to feel recharged. Kids are a lot to handle. Especially toddlers.

  3. It is quite stressful to manage a child and complete your chores daily. I love to get some “Me” time daily when my hubby gets back and plays with my kid, while then I have some minutes to myself to read, relax or even meditate!

    1. My hubby works abroad, but whenever he goes home, I let him handle the kids. So they can bond….but really, so I can get some rest.

  4. Love this post. I was invited to a 40th last night and another friend said she couldn’t come because she and her husband agree not to go out separately. I go out all the time. I’m big on the me time. And ive done it all, stayed home with little ones (I hear ya on the tired and crying), worked part time with little ones, worked full time with little ones, stayed home full time with elementary age kids and now i work PT with two kids in full time school. Now, I do get some built in me time when the kids are at school if I am not working. I do chores around the house, shopping, but I go the gym, have lunch with friends and sometimes just hit up the dvr and relax. its all a balance. but it can be easy to get sucked into the all consuming nature of childcare, esp with real little ones.

    1. I guess I’ll have more me time when my youngest child turns 4 and is ready for school. But I do get to go out in like, once every two months.

  5. I have four kids under 10 and let me tell ya, it ain’t a picnic staying home with them all day. I also homeschool which means I literally never get a break. There are never two minutes alone to myself. Some days I don’t feel like I do any of it very well and yet I’m still miserable doing it (it would seem if I were neglecting my mommy duties at least I should be having fun doing it!). There’s this constant tug between wanting alone time and the anxiety that alone time brings. Ah. I dream of the time when I only had two girls (though I love my boys fiercely they certainly are not quiet beings😭). Thanks for sharing it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who feels like this and needs time alone.

    1. Four under 10!? You got your hands full. I grew up with 7 siblings and our house was never quiet nor orderly. And sibling fights?!? Don’t get me started. But now that we’re all grown up, I’m happy I have a big family, Christmas is never dull. Hang in there! You shouldn’t feel quilty about taking some time off. You deserve it!

  6. “But she stays at home all day, why is she tired?” – Oh M GEEE! You hit the nail on the head here. Don’t ever say that! So much more goes into it than non-SAHM (or dads) realize.

  7. I’m actually getting some “Me Time” this evening with an old friend. I couldn’t even tell you the last time this has happened, but boy I’m so excited. Dinner, a few drinks, and catching up on each other’s lives will be a great evening for sure. Mom’s need this at least once a month, if not that, every couple months. Just get out and enjoy a few hours with good friends doesn’t hurt at all.

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